Saturday, December 26, 2009

African Children's Choir/Silent Night!

Tuesday, December 22, 2009

Update on the Falchooks!

Ok! So I have sort of been MIA regarding true blogging in the past several months. I have opted VLOGGING rather than writing for at least half of this year. And although I admit that a written blog is more heartfelt most of the time than the video blogs, I have enjoyed learning about video production etc. Still, after posting and editing 13 videos last week (after my Christian Appalachian Project trip), I have to say this week I have been laying low with the video and blogging. Mostly it is because I have been getting ready for Christmas but also reflecting. I have spent this week in a very pensive mood.

I have recently started this intermittent fast that has inspired me to spend my days worshiping, reading the bible, worshiping, singing, praying. It has been really interesting and great. The fast is until 5 everyday and then I eat what I want (don't worry Mom if you are reading this..I am staying healthy). Some call it a diet. I just really think lowering my caloric intake has been great for me...Bottom line is that it is either the Christmas season or the fact that I am spending more time in intensive prayer or worship, but I am really feeling God in my life. Not only God but His power and favor. This isn't manifesting itself in terms of major money like winning the lottery or having a major career opportunity drop in my lap. It just is that I can feel and see my life being transformed and delivered into a new place for HIm. I still don't know exactly what it is but I believe that He will use our experiences from our old 'field' and bring them into a new area that will truly honor Him. So, I wait and watch and spend time with HIM..worshiping Him, and listening....

So, we continue to be able to express ourselves through music as well as writing. This past weekend I was able to lead worship at our church and really really enjoyed it. There were so many interesting little nuggets of confirmation that the Lord gave me leading up to the worship etc. And after wards someone came up to me and told me that they think God had wanted me to get a taste of what it was really like to use the skills he has refined in me to His glory. So, I was inspired to start planning some worship whether in my own home or with my friends who wanted me to provide music for a WORSHIP FOR LIFE event. So i am excited. ALSO, one of the girls I have been ministering to 'post abortion' (she was worshiping at our church this week) said to me that the Lord told her when she was looking at me on stage that "I will restore you like I have restored her." I think that was the sweetest thing to hear. This woman has been really having a very hard time...PRAISE GOD that He encourages.


I am also seriously in love and in awe of all of my kids...maybe it is the fast or just the benefit of time in getting to really know them, but I really do love them more everyday.

Last night, the kids spontaneously pulled out their bibles and have announced that we will study together. Grace who is still learning to really read sat quietly reading Genesis and then continued to explain the story of ADAM AND EVE to me after reading an NIV bible. She then starts talking about how Adam and Eve 'hid' from God. Matea then looks at me and says "it's okay for God to see us naked isn't it?" So, we spend time reading books 3-6 in genesis. The kids wake up in the morning and are reading cute and cool.

Samantha is home and had a great first semester in college. She is on the Dean's list. We are so proud. She is planning on doing an internship in NYC for the summer at a PR firm. So, we are looking for a place for her to stay while there for a few weeks this summer.

Andrew is studying Hebrew and will have a barmitzvah next year at a Messianic temple. We are Christian but because of his lineage and Mark's background, Andrew will follow the family tradition and study Hebrew. Our Pastor actually was the one to find a Christian rabbi to guide Andrew. Andrew is also still a huge baseball fan. He watches baseball 24/7 and has a ball in his hand wayyy too much. He is also the one in the family determined to start up a daily bible study.

When I think of Grace I literally find myself getting all teared up. She is so courageous and quiet. When her two siblings were brought to the orphanage the grandmother was NOT going to bring Grace. THe neighbor convinced her to not separate them. So, I watch Grace who although is not the oldest in our family, is very much the older sister. She is very protective of her siblings and is such a little mother and helper to me. She is precious and to see her bond to Mark as well and now reading and longing to learn more about God and ask questions about Heaven so sweet.

Ella is so sweet too. I will never forgot how she wanted to jump out the window when she first came here. She had such a dark cloud around her. Now i can't get her to stop laughing. She always wants hugs from me and is so good with Matea. She wants me to cradle her in my arms every night and insists on my hugging her 8 times every day. She also is still making me tea every day. She is so beautiful and precious.

Jared struggles sometimes with anger and will stomp his feet or throw his hands in the air and say "I quit' because I tell him to pick up his pants or something basic (my theory is that he has some Italian blood as the Italians at one point tried to conquer ethiopia...because sometimes he is very italianish). I am learning that if he doesn't get a nap or eat enough he is a monster so we work around that. Put him to sleep and he wakes up a new happy boy. We have been discussing self control couched like this..."Jared listen to the good super hero in your head not the one that tells you to slam the door" etc....He is also very protective with the women in his life (also very italianish-I like that made up word). Holds the door open for me and just wants responsibility. He wants us to give him jobs to do and he is thrilled.

Matea is uber smart and so cute. She always has the best one liners and the best laugh. She also is not shy at all. I think of how she truly was born of my heart. I just longed for her before she was born and even turned away the first referral we had because I KNEW I would be able to identify her once I met her. The second referral was MATEA and I knew it before I even laid eyes on her picture. She has just been such a joy...

Mark and I have been married for 22 years. This year was very slow for business. Without any prompting on my part he venuted outside of him comfort zone. He had spent his entire professional year as a musician but now in order to bring in more money for the family grabbed a salesman job at Nordstroms to help us to get by. He works very hard and loves our family very much. I feel blessed to be his wife but also blessed to be able to create music with him. We have worked together very well for years.

My year was amazing with a number one best selling book on Amazon and then an opportunity and new passion to interview mothers and bring to light the awesomeness of motherhood. But mainly , I guess i am truly happy to have really learned what it means to really live to honor God by taking care of His children. As much as I worry and complain about the decrease in work up in NYC, i have also had a year that has given me an opportunity to spend quality time with my children and husband. Mostly, I am ready now for a new decade and continue to approach life as an adventure. I cannot wait until each new day...I just long to hear from the Lord and watch as He creates a new way to use our talents for His glory.

Blessings, D

Saturday, December 19, 2009

Merry Knishmas from our Family! VIDEO!

Apparently there is a cartoon on the cartoon network called CHOWDER. After making this video my kids have informed me that Jared was referring to the episode called Merry Knishmas

Wednesday, December 16, 2009

Merry Christmas ELF CARD of Falchook Family!

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Monday, December 14, 2009


One of the many videos from MOTHER THE WORLD...BTW..this song and CD are available for sale either at MOTHER THE WORLD or TO BE A MOTHER and book can be purchased still at AMAZON...great gift for the women in your life.

Sunday, December 13, 2009

Five Kids, Ten Dollars, Dad at the Dollar store

Uncle Tim sent us 10 dollars wanting to see Mark at the Dollar Store with the kids...this is the result....

Saturday, December 12, 2009

Runaway Rabbit Owners discuss Motherhood

Check out the full post at MOTHER THE WORLD or go to their site at RUNAWAY RABBIT

Mary Lou Kirby 2007 Mother of the Year(KY) and Motherhood

Really enjoyed this interview on our trip prior to going to the Christian Appalachian Project..Mary Lou speaks so well on the topic of motherhood....

Marriage, Motherhood and a Pedicure

We had fun in between 3 interviews and a visit to the pregnancy clinic in Bowling green KY...there are several videos that I am uploading to our MOTHER THE WORLD blog that will take you on our Appalachian KY.

Thursday, December 10, 2009

Mother the World (Intro to tour in December)

For more updates and info on Christian Appalachian Project go to MOTHER THE WORLD

Monday, November 30, 2009

Green Acres Christmas Tree Farm in CARY, NC

Go to GREEN ACRES if you are in NC to get your trees. They donate proceeds to the African Children's choir...

Santa's Uncle and Christmas Carols as a Second Language

Birthday with a Burning Oven Mit...

Saturday, November 14, 2009

Finding Joy In the Midst of "Flippin out"-Early Christmas Tree Set UP

Have you ever been in the middle of a total funk, or grief, or despair and all of the sudden you get a wave of joy? I have been stressed lately. Our business is way down due to the economy as well as the fact that I am embarking on a new ministry. The Lord is clearly moving us into a new ‘field’ with ministry through my TO BE A MOTHER book as well as our advocacy with MOTHER THE WORLD (an org I am launching to raise awareness to the awesomeness of mothers). Although, I know I am following God’s call, it is scary to watch and look back at a business you built and see it sort of fade behind you in the horizon as you look ahead unsure of what your eyes are looking at in your future. So, I have been consumed with fear, not knowing if we have to sell our house, not knowing if we have enough to pay the bills, groceries, Christmas presents and the list goes on. One reassurance though is that I know we are not alone. There are many people in the same position due to the economy etc. Still, there have not been very many times in my adult life that I remember having to ‘practice and refine’ my faith muscle as much. I don’t recall feeling so unsure and afraid of things before.

I started to go to the gym this week determined that if my body moves a little more I may find the HAPPY endorphins….I go to the YMCA. I picked up the OUR DAILY BREAD devotions that they have there. Funny how I made the observation today how much joy I feel in the midst of my simultaneous ‘flipping out.’ And then I opened the devotional to today:

Ezra 3:10-13 (New International Version)
10 When the builders laid the foundation of the temple of the LORD, the priests in their vestments and with trumpets, and the Levites (the sons of Asaph) with cymbals, took their places to praise the LORD, as prescribed by David king of Israel. 11 With praise and thanksgiving they sang to the LORD :
"He is good;
his love to Israel endures forever."
And all the people gave a great shout of praise to the LORD, because the foundation of the house of the LORD was laid. 12 But many of the older priests and Levites and family heads, who had seen the former temple, wept aloud when they saw the foundation of this temple being laid, while many others shouted for joy. 13 No one could distinguish the sound of the shouts of joy from the sound of weeping, because the people made so much noise. And the sound was heard far away.

I know that the Lord is laying a new foundation for us. I know it is one I have longed for. But in my flesh I can’t help but look back and mourn and grieve the security I had for so long in the old temple. I can’t help but be human in realizing I am moving out of a place of expertise into a place of being the apprentice minister. So, I have simultaneous joy and grief….

Today I put the Christmas trees up. I said on my facebook status that I needed a little more time to celebrate Christmas (thus the early set up). I felt honest outbursts of joy in my heart as I looked at my children who already only into their second Christmas with us have clung onto tradition. They placed decorations in spots that they remembered them in from last year. Ella cried as she found the African American angel that I purchased last year to put on the top of the tree. She said “mom can I sleep with her?” Joy in my heart as I look at our beautiful home filled with so much love. I don’t regret spending my WORK money on international adoption rather than the Mercedes Benz and Lexus’ that my competitors in NYC drive. I am so full and happy knowing that even as the bank account is dwindling, I can honestly say that I believe our investments have gone into something and somewhere that I know was a CALL and EDICT from God to do in our adoptions and in growing our family. I know that the lifestyle choices we made in moving to a family friendly/community was an action that contributed to our spiritual growth. So, I have so much joy in my heart right now. And I am learning to truly LIVE with faith as my bread and sustenance is in Jesus. I spend my time making birthday parties and making home made chicken soup a lot more than I used to. But when I was constantly traveling and “gigging’ there was also a frustration and loneliness in my heart desiring to be in my home with my family ….mothering them like I am now.

Luke 8:21 (New International Version)
21He replied, "My mother and brothers are those who hear God's word and put it into practice."

Jesus claims us as part of His family (as mothers and brothers) when we hear God’s word and put it into practice. Pure Religion (james 1:27) makes it clear to us that if we want to PRACTICE Pure religion we will take care of orphans and widows. So, here I am now finally where I have always wanted to be in ministry. But terrified as an apprentice in practicing being a mother and putting God’s word into action. It is not easy. The next part of James 1:27 tells us to not be polluted by the world. There is a part of me that wants to resurrect the busy flourishing worldly vocation I had…mainly for security purposes. But the consumption of the world that surrounds me at times in that job is difficult at times to escape. Money is dripping everywhere, wine is flowing, everyone is artificially beautiful, the hype is palpable….and being around it can boost anyone’s ego…still the look in Ella’s eyes as she says “that angel looks just like my mommy did…thanks mom for giving me an angel from Ethiopia.”

Is so much more joyous than any million dollar wedding that I ever played over there on that other field. A new life for a previously orphaned girl where she is happy placing ornaments on trees and wondering if I am going to make a chocolate dessert for her again this year…the joy just overpowers my despair at times….SO, I hold onto believing that as a family ‘adopted’ into the kingdom…that no matter where we are here on earth…the Kings of Kings will always find a way to provide for His family. So, we cry out to ABBA FATHER and Praise Him for the new foundation He is building for us with Praise and Thanksgiving..”HE IS GOOD. HIS LOVE ENDURES FOREVER.”

Thursday, November 12, 2009

Spaghetti Girl and Family-Video-Halloweeen 2009

Tuesday, November 3, 2009

Mother the World in Appalacia/UPCOMING TOUR

We are going to be launching our follow up tour and official debut of MOTHER THE WORLD in December and we will be going to APPALACHIA in the Eastern part of Kentucky. I am hoping that we can meet the woman whose organization put this video together (Appalachian Ministries). Our plan is to visit and document mothers in the mountains, talk to the woman who runs the ministry and hand out gift packages to mothers. AND of course spread the gospel of Jesus Christ.

I would also like us do some beauty work on the mothers and teens (haircuts and manicures or pedicures) and bring princess and super hero costumes for the kids. We will ask for donations.

Saturday, October 31, 2009

Spaghetti Girl, Trash Girl, Tina ZOMBIE Turner, Quarterback and Power Ranger

Wednesday, October 28, 2009

I Hate Halloween! Dressing up as a PRAYER WARRIOR!

Posting this AGAIN..just in case you don't know how I feel about Halloween..I am going as a prayer warrior...

Adoption Weight!

Yeah that is not a typo. I mean 'adoption WEIGHT" not "wait". Yes we usually talk about how long it takes to adopt etc. And we complain about our 'waits"...BUT I want to talk about a topic that is rarely discussed. It also isn't a proven phenomenon ...BUT in my life IT IS TRUE. When you adopt children you gain WEIGHT. I know many women will say "it was so great to adopt because I didn't have to put on pregnancy weight etc." But when I adopted my baby Matea in 2005 I gained weight and lost it. NOW and only now am I starting to LOSE the weight I put on by adopting my Ethiopian triplets (ages 11, 8, and 7).

I don't know why. Some will say it is just my age and after 40 you gain. NO NO NO! I gained about 15 or 20 pounds and went from a size 4 to a size 8 (sometimes GASP almost in a 10 jeans)...I brought them home and would cook every night. Then I would make cake every night. And one night decided NOT to make cake the kids came to the kitchen around 8 at night and said "What no cake?" Seriously, I over cooked thinking they would starve and have those bloated bellies in the middle of one of the most prosperous parts of NC if I didn't feed them. Yes..they have grown. BUT MAMA HAS GROWN TOO....SOOO, for all of you new adoptive moms out there..PLEASE BEWARE of the ADOPTION WEIGHT..It really exists. And could take 18 months to a 2 years to what you eat and try to exercise. Because you never know when another adoption could be just around the corner...

Tuesday, October 27, 2009

TO BE A MOTHER-CD now Available

Our TO BE A MOTHER - CD is available now click here TO BE A MOTHER

Thursday, October 15, 2009

Abortion Confession Saves a Life! Nana Pam and Keshaun!!!

So, last year I finished my book and then realized that after 27 years of keeping my abortion secret I had to finally confess to my parents, kids, friends....

It was hard but something I knew the Lord wanted. One of the people I called was my friend Pam. I had contacted a few people from my old church to ask for help for the upcoming 40days for life campaign. I hadn't seen Pam in several months. But contacted her via email first. In those few exchanges Pam confessed her abortion too...and later told me about her 3 abortions. A few weeks after that we had a dinner at my house to discuss 40 days. I had spent a year studying abortion etc. but Pam had not really explored the effects of her own abortion etc. Still as we completed dinner we all talked about the upcoming event and then one of us said something that visibly struck Pam to the point where she was totally shaken. We didn't want to hit a trigger and had assumed that she had worked through her abortion experiences. But when one of us talked about the late term abortions Pam pretty much lost it....we all prayed over her.

I spoke to her that week about taking things slowly. She said "no, I am IN..I am called to fight for this cause etc." So, we would get together and talk about the bible etc and women's issues. One day Pam was working in her position as manager at a local fast food of her co workers was talking about her daughter and the pending abortion that was sched. Pam felt compelled to talk to the mother and daughter and give her own testimony. THis was still new to Pam but she confessed and made an impression on this family. She convinced the pregnant mother to postpone the abortion appointment and go to see an ultrasound at the pregnancy clinic. Pam drove her there. Pam talked to her about Jesus..Pam helped the young mother to choose life by offering to support this woman in any way she could.. Pam had gathered gift cards from church and would take this mother shopping for essentials. She would also take her to the doctors appointments. Pam helped talk the woman into going off drugs too.

Well, this September a beautiful baby boy (and I mean beautiful) named Keshaun was born. I am doing a video series on Pam. Pam has seen it all. Nothing shocks Pam. But her past has also made her qualified to speak to women who have been addicted, women who have had a hard time mothering and women who have aborted. For me, I am humbled. Not only about Pam but about how my confession led to Pam's confession which led to life. If someone had told me even 26 years ago that my abortion confession could save a life I believe I would have had more courage even back then to try to tell my story to inspire women to choose life for their babies....God is so good and I am watching as this young mother has Pam to help her still ...and Pam calls herself NANA to Keshaun. I am witnessing an entire community raise up a baby and give a young mother hope. I pray and wish this MODEL would be replicated throughout the US...just look at this baby....just look at Pam who was broken when parenting her own children post abortion as she loves unconditionally this baby...AWESOME GOD!!!

Tuesday, October 13, 2009

Brides of Christ Mother the World!

So, it has been a really long time since I posted any actually text. I have been a bit preoccupied with my new love ...the FLIP HD ULTRA video camera. My husband says he is a video widower...It has been one of the best gifts I have ever received (not counting my husband,kids and laptop-which I wrote a book on). I had received a gift for our ministry MOTHER THE WORLD (officially not yet launched 12/1/09). And prior to heading to the midwest to promote TO BE A MOTHER a dear friend gifted me with a check for the cam the day after I was in prayer and heard from the Lord to document and interview mothers. So, it has been a blessing but requires some editing time.

In the meantime, all is well here in the land of my beautiful Injera Guacamole Hotdog family. However, we are struggling through (so far) a light version of the flu. My son first had it and because there was only a light fever I misdiagnosed it as the IDONTwANNAGOTOSCHOOL strain...and sent him to school for two days ...NOW I FEEL AWFUL...but he is fine..The youngest two are home today with fevers..and coughs..and by 9:30 once the Motrin kicked in my 7 year old came down looking like a professional Ethiopian soccer player with a ball uder his arms...knee socks, shorts and a soccer jersey saying "HEY I AM GOING TO PLAY SOCCER OUTSIDE"...i quickly said UH NO YOU ARE NOT....My daughter Ella's glass has 10 kids out of the class....and she is coughing with no fever as is Grace...they have really really hearty bodies....Oldest was home from college and insisted no one breathe on her....the corner PEDS office is claiming 30 cases of swine flu a day. Still, we are hunkering down...I have a batch of homemade chicken soup on the stove along with ginger tea (which I SWEAR is why these cases in our household aren't worse) and italian ices that we bought as twofers....

Still, there is a lot of unknowns in our lives. OUr business is slow with our band so we are struggling financially and may be putting our new big house on the market....(sorry to put all of you followers through the house selling thing again)...but the Ministry is bearing much fruit...I cannot even begin to count on my hand how many incredible mother stories, adoption stories, stories of choosing life, stories of stepping into motherhood...incredible SHE-RO stories....and so much revelation...I went on my tour thinking I would impart so much to the people I would meet or speak to on adoption. I am in awe at the lessons I have already learned...

1. People need to be 'mothered" even when they are octogenarians...How many people in nursing homes etc long for someone to come to tell them they matter enough to them to spend some time making sure they are happy and cared for or given a hug.

2. Most mothers feel inadequate and God uses them anyhow...WHEW what a relief to discover this one. I had thought I was the only messed up clumsy mom out there and that maybe GOd somehow made a mistake...but looking at the clumsy characters in the bible that He used as I say..."OH IT IS BIBLICAL FOR GOD TO USE PEOPLE THAT FEEL INADEQUATE and even ARE..."

3. Due to a lack of mothering we have many older teens and young adults who are confused and unsure of how to parent leaving them to carry on some of the abuse they encountered as kids with their own kids...we need more people like my friends Elaine and Cody Bateman to teach and mentor....

4. Our culture while financially blessed has a lot to learn about parenting from places like Africa where the mothers in the communities truly believe that IT TAKES A America many mothers feel isolated turning to books and HOW TO manuals rather than having mothering be natural simply by being around other mothers.

5. Children with HIV in Africa will stay healthy waiting to be taking to America where they will live a long life..if they know they have a new family waiting for them. CHildren with no hope will die...

6. Older boys and girls in Ethiopia still long for a mother but many times are thrown on the street to deal with all kinds of awful things if a mother doesn't claim them like Eileen Mestas my friend.

7. 30000 people starve everyday to death. Haiti has a huge starvation is spoiling.

8. 2.8 billion professed Christians in the world...if 7% of that number would adopt only 1 child we would solve the orphan crisis and all of the 143 million orphans would have a mother. BUt in Ethiopia for example only 1 one hundredth of 1 percent of the orphans are adopted annually.. the new I am creating is called MOTHER THE WORLD...what that means is that MOTHER IS A nurture, care for , save, love, feed..basically pick up on Jesus' message to take care of the orphans, widows and least of these.... my inspiration is that if we are BRIDES OF CHRIST (the church or even individuals in this case women-but does apply to men too)..then we are to MOTHER THE WORLD..find the children...adopt the for the the children...and CHILDREN doesn't only mean 18 and means children of GOd..and that could be a 97 year old woman in INdia or indiana....

One random act of kindness this Christmas can save a life, change a mind and motivate a person to pay it forward....MOTHER THE WORLD..honor GOD and DO SOMETHING....

TO BE A MOTHER boo is still available at AMAZON

Sunday, October 11, 2009

Jasmine is Adopted as a TEEN-Talks about MOTHERHOOD

Tuesday, October 6, 2009

Mother Mary (VIDEO and SONG By Deanna Jones)

Mark and his STANKY CHORDS in Church

VIDEO: Stay at Home Moms in NYC are as Hard to Find as African Gorillas hiding in the Jungle

Sunday, October 4, 2009

First Time Visit with Kids to LAUNDROMAT-Video


Thursday, October 1, 2009

Video: Mother of 20 discusses God's provision

Video: Mommy Hates Halloween Loves Christmas and Disney!

Wednesday, September 30, 2009

FLIP CAM ULTRA HD-Deanna and Matea

Tuesday, September 29, 2009

Adoption: Mom to 20/Rose Malavolti

Monday, September 28, 2009

PURELIFE 2009: My Story God's Glory


"I Want to Be A Mommy!" To Be A Mother

Sunday, September 27, 2009


GO to STOP CHILD TRAFFICKING learn more and contribute.

Tuesday, September 22, 2009

National Anthem/Jessica Helms I am on the MOTHER THE WORLD
first leg tour with my kids heading from NC to Illinois. I stop to hang out with the Bateman's my new adopted family. Jessica is one of my neices. She just happened to sing for me in the basement the National Anthem. She is so awesome and unaware at how great she is. That is totally refreshing....I love how God just gives you this wild idea to travel the world talking about motherhood and then you are treated to quality entertainment in a basement in KY...Praise Him! Jessica loves to sing Christian music and is a strong Christian so I seriously doubt would be inspired to sign a record deal in a secular market..But seriously ....she ROCKS...and I am proud of her...I love the Bateman family...and Jessica and all of her new extended family. Video quality isn't that great because of lighting.

Sunday, September 20, 2009


IT WAS A CRAZY DAY...HERE ARE OUR BLOOPERS!!!! 16 kids between the two of us....

"Mom, I Don't Wanna Die Like Nicole Kidman "

So one of my children (who wishes to remain anonymous in this blog post) was riding IT'S (his/her) bike the other day. IT (HE?SHE) fell and hit it's head on the curb (eventhough he/she was wearing a helmet). The child who will remain nameless, came into the house with a gigantic goose egg on the forehead....It was BIG so I said it would be good to have it looked at at the emergency room. The anonymous child said to me with tears running down (his/her) cheeks..."OH NO...Am I GONNA DIE LIKE NICOLE KIDMAN?" I said "first off you are not gonna die"...The child said "But Nicole Kidman died from a head injury"...I then said "It wasn't Nicole was Natasha Richardson." The child said "Whatever ..I don't wanna die like Nicole Kidman or Natasha Richardson."....LOL...the nameless child is fine and fell off it's bike again and skinned his/her knee and is in the living room right now with a wet paper towel on THE knee...

Lisa's Baby Died Here (Rockford Abortion Mill)

So, I just returned from a book tour for TO BE A MOTHER . It was an awesome trip. As I headed out in prayer it was revealed to me to video tape women and men, families while we were on the road. I stayed in Rockford, Illinois (my hometown). There is an abortion clinic there that has aborted 50,000 babies. The abortions take place in a clinic that is housed in an old elementary school that was built in 1898. Bob Brady (the man holding the angelic sign in the video) went to this school as a child. The parking lot where the mothers park prior to abortion was where he played at recess...when I was there I saw a beautiful sign of Jesus that had been painted by a pro life activist mail man Joe the window of the abortion mill the owner had placed a picture of Jesus giving the finger to the counselors with a sign that says JESUS HATES YOU!!!! There are also rubber chickens covering Jesus on a crucifix and dolls dressed up like nuns in coffins. This is where the women go to abort their babies up to 18 weeks. While there I watched Lisa Johnson a woman who had an abortion at the clinic at the age of 14. Lisa goes to the clinic with her SILENT NO MORE sign (I REGRET MY ABORTION)..She hands out literature with her testimony along with directions to the pregnancy clinic. In her literature she talks about how the abortionist showed her a petrie dish of her baby post abortion and said "see it is just a blob"....That abortionist died of cancer at a young age. Lisa told me she was saddened by that because she always held out hope he would be saved...Listening to her I had tears in my eyes. Her voice is strong...her voice is filled with compassion, sincerity and strength. Still, you can hear that her pleas are genuine....50,000 babies are lost to this clinic...where children used to play outside with joy in their hearts...pray for these prayer warriors....who stand outside of this clinic..

Older Child Adoption: Bateman Family in Kentucky

I had the pleasure of staying with the Bateman family on my first official tour stop. I have some amazing testimonies I will be posting later but here is a look at the family. I am still tweaking my editing skills..Audio is too loud and can't figure out how to bring it down....on the flip software.

Thursday, September 17, 2009

Spider PIG-800 mile serenade

I heard this song for 800 miles...When we stopped I decided to get it on tape because they were still singing..

Disney as a Second Language!

Decaf Frap High-TO BE A MOTHER /Mother the World tour

Back from our trip and have some really funny video:

Tuesday, September 8, 2009

TO BE A MOTHER: Video- Bateman Family- Older Child

TEN KUCKIES....Kentucky...

Thursday, September 3, 2009


We are going on the road for my book TO BE A MOTHER ...I will be blogging there mostly for the next two weeks. I don't know if I can make it to both blogs during the tour but will try but check with TO BE A MOTHER.

Sunday, August 30, 2009

Kay Warren Speaks on Stepping out to Help with the AIDS PANDEMIC

Oh how I wish we were all feeling ruined for God to extend ourselves to help the most vulnerable.

Saturday, August 29, 2009

TSHIRT Video Kid Fashion Show - More Styles at

Monday, August 24, 2009

BEING A MOTHER My Ultimate Reward!

I have spent the day doing the happy dance because I am in shock that my book is an Amazon best seller at #1 in Adoption and vascillating between 3-5 on the Women's Issues/Christian category(right under my heroes Beth Moore and Stasi/John Eldredge) and between 6-8 on the Motivational chart (under a book I read a million times YOU CAN HEAL YOUR LIFE by Louise Hay).  It has been a blessed time and I am humbled and honestly surprised.

Years ago when I nervously chased fame believing that was the prize I was running after (burying my first dream of wanting to be a mother), I would fantasize about winning the Grammy or Oscar. I imagined how incredible that would be, how rich I would be...I spent years praying to God to somehow make me famous because I wanted it to happen so I could make enough money to have a family, house etc. I was confused.  I cried when I would not see the success I was working toward.  Then later my band developed an excellent reputation in NY and we were able to basically climb the ladder of success as a band to the stars...But I remember sitting on a stage with MY band and my company surrounded by Hollywood elite at a million dollar wedding saying to myself "SO WHAT! If this is is empty!"  Then when I saw Samantha for the first time i about melted with joy. I lost my breath when Andrew was born in disbelief at the pride I felt as a mother of a son. When I saw Matea at 5 months old in Guatemala for the first time I felt like I was literally looking at a cherub that God had dressed all in white to present to me....awesome! My three Ethiopian children all filled me with awe at their constant poise in the midst of loss and grief.  My bliss was found and always has been in quality human relationships. The best being the children that just long to be loved. In extending myself beyond my comfort zone and in stretching more and more in the area of Faith...each time I watch as GOD SHOWS UP....My family is the reward.Making it to where I am today with a dirty brownie pan in the sink and a pile of laundry along side the play room that needs to be picked up is my bliss and more beautiful to me then the 15 thousand dollar cake at the wedding of the stars..

Still, God gives me a little reward in the form of a credential as a number one best seller at Amazon. I don't want to miss the miracle but I don't want to ignore the source either..God's plans have always been better than mine. And it took a fatal mistake in my life to realize that. But I will plan as best as I can and then feel the joy in the twists and turns He takes me on like some super natural joyous tilt a whirl ride at the sweetest Heavenly carnival ever....Praise You Lord..Jesus take the wheel...and I will try to have the heart of a child...trusting You and laughing with a grateful Spirit that You are on Your throne and I get to hang out at Your feet....

TO BE A MOTHER #1 Amazon Best Seller (adoption/prolife memoir)

Hey the book made it to number one on the Amazon best seller list and has been there now for 6 hours...So busy but will try to blog later.

MY BOOK "TO BE A MOTHER" Please buy TODAY 8/24

Please buy my book TO BE A MOTHER today 8/24/09 at AMAZON . I would love to have many people buy it on release date in hopes of making it an AMAZON best seller....


To Be A Mother: Adopting God’s Heart

The Aftermath of Abortion and the Power of Redemption

July 15, 2009, Raleigh, NC and Denver, CO – When a woman chooses abortion, the lingering psychological effects can be devastating. Deanna Jones, author of To Be a Mother, knows too well the grief and guilt that can haunt these women. As a teenager, an abortion seemed the only answer for Deanna, but the decision caused her great pain afterward. Finally, by opening her heart to Jesus Christ, she was able to transcend her grief and forgive herself. Her memoir, published by Outskirts Press, is a story of hope that will resonate with many women, and inspire all who read it.

Deanna Jones found herself pregnant at the age of 19. In an unstable relationship, and with a musical career starting to take off, she decided she was not ready for motherhood. “No way,” she said. “This is my life, my body.” And so she made an appointment at a local clinic. But she was not prepared for the overwhelming despair that would result. After the abortion she was left with a feeling of emptiness and loss. “Legalized abortion denied me a beautiful gift from God,” she says. “The desperation post-abortion far outweighed the desperation during my brief, unplanned pregnancy, and I was so off balance that I felt as if I would never be able to hold onto anything ever again. A part of me was missing and I would never get it back.”

There is a happy ending, however. To Be a Mother is not focused on Deanna’s loss, but rather, it is a story of redemption, resurrection, God’s grace, and His extravagant blessings. Deanna found that by facing her actions and calling out to the true Father, she would be transformed, forgiven, and enlivened. With the Lord by her side, she was able to move from a difficult childhood and a painful abortion decision to the miraculous redemption of Christ and the healing joy that came from the birth and adoption of her six children.

“The poignant and compassionate words of Deanna Jones articulate America’s latent sorrow in the aftermath of our abortion culture. Deanna’s sympathetic perception is borne from a personal

encounter with grief. Listen to her and be illuminated, healed, and refreshed.”

—Troy Newman

President, Operation Rescue

“To Be a Mother truly highlights the healing presence of Christ in Deanna’s life. She eloquently travels from her painful past to her redemption and new life in Christ. This book would be an inspiration to any woman, or man, who has suffered, as Deanna has, and is searching for healing.”

—Theresa Burke, PhD

Author of Forbidden Grief: The Unspoken Pain of Abortion

Founder, Rachel’s Vineyard Ministries

“Finally, in To Be a Mother, Deanna beautifully redefines the term pro-life—pro-life and pro-adoption become one. An elegant portrayal of the choice to give redeeming love that makes receiving it in turn so much sweeter.”

—Carolyn Twietmeyer, Founder/Executive Director, Project HOPEFUL

This true story shows us firsthand that God is compassionate, illustrating the relentless nature of His pursuit to save and claim His children and allow them life everlasting. The Bible declares that the Lord will turn our mourning into gladness and our despair into praise (Is 61:3), and for Deanna Jones, this has become truth. Follow her inspirational story as she is lifted from a wounded child to a place of understanding and joy as a woman of God. To Be a Mother is a celebration of life, of motherhood, and the sanctity of life itself.

About the Author: Deanna Jones was born and raised in Rockford, Illinois, and is currently a bandleader and singer for the New York based band The Deanna Jones Orchestra. She considers her greatest assets to be her six children—two by birth, and four by miraculous adoption. Her web site ( is dedicated to the miracle of motherhood, and she and her husband, Mark, are active pro-life, adoption advocates.

Thursday, August 20, 2009

Musical Shoes...All in a Days work as a Mother...shoe policing...

Horse Poop Bird's all the same....

Ethiopian Adoption: Domination Dog - language lesson

in case you guys ever doubted my Jared is proof

TO BE A MOTHER: Book release/radio interview on Monday 8/24

Everyone mark your calendars for Monday. I will be releasing my book on 8/24. I also have an interview on National Pro Life Radio with Day Gardner on that day. I will be posting the Amazon link and link to the radio show which will be at 5pm on MOnday.


Wednesday, August 19, 2009

My Little Rascals...Darla and Buckwheat...

Now Jared and Matea....
So, it's been a really funny few days with my two youngest. First they insisted on giving me a foot rub with lotion...Then the next day I found them outside with an overturned gray storage bin as a table and a flipped over striped tin garbage can as a chair.  Andrew came in to inform me that the youngest two had decided to sell tap water to the neighbors in little miniature tea cups without washing them for a dollar.   I gather they were imitating their older siblings who had been selling lemonade for awhile..
Then Matea (Darla) came into the kitchen last night and totally really freaked me out when I discovered that she had taken a hard boiled egg from two days prior and had been taking great care of it somewhere waiting for a "baby to hatch" she handed it to me I totally freaked out. It didn't smell but it had started to get hard as a rock and I had no clue where she had been keeping it...I grabbed it and threw it away as she screamed "BUT A BABY is in it" I said "No Matea remember the Mommy eggs are inside human mothers.' THis is a chicken egg and there is no baby chicken inside there...She started to cry and then she laughed and forgot about it....
The kids are really really funny and Matea is the most interesting little girl in the world...the youngest two remind me of Darla and Buckwheat from Little Rascals....Jared came up to me the other day and said "Mom JAPANCY, JAPANCY" i said "Jared what is a JAPANCY" ...He said "MOM's a monkey." He was trying to say CHIMPANZEE...but described something that sounded like a japanese monkey....

Saturday, August 15, 2009

Songs about Grace no Songs About Ella!!!

This past week we celebrated Ella's 8th birthday on 8/12. We had 8 girls over for a slumber party last week. Ella was thrilled. We had cake, ice cream, pizza, popcorn and a huge breakfast...Then after everyone else left around 10 we all cleaned up from the party and then I had them all clean the garage with me. They didn't enjoy that much..LOL..

Ella got some birthday money and we took her shopping for clothing. It was honestly the first time since last year's birthday that she was able to spend some money on herself. It was so refreshing!!! She walked into the store and literally loved everything. She was not picky at all just really grateful and excited. I do remember picking them up from the orphanage and having them be a little picky with their clothes..but we usually get hand me downs because I really can't afford to be buying new clothes all the time and really don't see the point since they grow so fast and many of my friends happily give us clothes...SO, she bought some outfits and looked beautiful..

Mark is working at a department store in the men's clothing department. It has been a slow year so we haven't been working much. So, he has had to work to make some money for us....So, we had been cleaning and didn't look all that great but walked into the high end store anyhow to see Mark (and hand him his keys because i had walked off with them). The kids were still all so new to the escalator that it surprised me. The were so enamored with it and equally afraid and excited of we went up and down. Then I ran into one of my favorite clients but was embarrassed because I looked like I had been cleaning..which I had...

Later in the car I am singing a Christian song from the radio...Ella says "Mommy how come you are always singing about Grace and not about me???" I thought that was so funny. And Matea started then singing AMAZING GRACE...Then Ella says what does my name mean...this came after we explained what Grace meant and what Matea means (gift from God)..I told her that her name meant SHE in spanish and she was come Matea has a special name and Grace too....Then I reminded her that she was named after my Grandmother...But then I remembered something cool that I had never thought of...Her middle name is her EThiopian name means then I said your name means "SHE IS BLESSED!!!" I am really the one that is blessed.

Tuesday, August 11, 2009

From our Cul de sac's to the Compound! African Teen Orphans and Adoption!

I had been in labor with my second child for several hours and then the doctor announced after the delivery via Csection "You have a beautiful baby boy!"   I was so surprised. I immediately lost my breath and started crying out of joy.  I really had never even dreamed about being a mother of a boy...And then when I first laid eyes on Andrew I continued to cry. I could not believe how beautiful he was and I still could not get over my reaction. I was one of four girls and loved it. I had a daughter and would have been elated with another girl. I was so surprised at this sense of joy, pride and awe I felt as a mother of a boy.....
When we adopted from Ethiopia I had been warned by some people about older child adoption. For many people an "older child" is 2 or 3.  Then when we adopted our sibling group of 3 my heart connected to all of the kids. But there was a knowingness in my heart that my responsibility to the youngest was somehow even more profound. Jared couldn't remember his mother. He loved his grandmother and called her 'amaya" or mommy...But he longed to be taken care of and Mothered...I was blessed again to be a mother of a older Ethiopian orphan prince...of 6.
In many countries the boys are revered so much that the baby girls are the ones abandoned, aborted or killed via infanticide. There are many cultures that believe there is more value to their sons. Ironically, in adoption circles girls are very popular. I find it interesting and sweet that the people going out to adopt are drawn to the gender of the child that is readily discarded first. However, since the "demand" is for baby girls, then baby boys, then toddler girls, toddler boys, girls, boys...then to special needs like cleft palate, "hiv+" other special seems really obvious that teens are totally not considered . And teen boys are considered for adoption last in line. What happens to girls and boys who have been orphaned all of their lives and then age out from the orphanage and then onto the streets of a country whose average life span is 45? They are poor and have no fall into all kinds of bad situations and many time can die within 10 years of being out in the rugged streets of the city, where dozens of 'aged out' orphans struggle to get food, get a job, find a place to sleep and hope not to die of dehydration. Some girls are met by pimps that wait on the outside of the orphanage after catching word that 'one' is being released on a particular day.....she goes from orphan status immediately into slavery via prostitution (she is owned not mothered).
The reality is that there is so much promise and so much hope in a teen (girl or boy), But who is going to come?  The percentages in Ethiopia alone is that only one one hundreth of 1 percent of the 4.6 million children orphaned are adopted every year. Of that one one hundreth of 1 percent the special needs children and teens are the last to be considered.   One statistic is that even though many of us consider adoption only 3% of the Christians in our country adopt....most of those babies...
My husband and I have two boys  that we call our sons in Ethiopia because they are our children's brothers. They are anywhere from 14-18..not really sure. We don't really know where they are exactly or if they are okay...They are orphans and we didn't know about them until late in the adoption process and we were told that they were unadoptable....But we wonder, worry and pray for them and deeply determined to get a phone number or have someone visiting to find them so we can get a report...
I have one friend that ministers to the boys on the streets of Addis. But there is only so much he can do. There is also an orphanage called Kolfe Orphanage that my friends Eileen and Jerry have tried to raise funds to restore etc.  But no matter how many new sheets or how many new beds, books, shoes you can buy for a teen can't replace the love of a mother. So many long to be able to call someone mother even when they are 15, 16, 17...Some will never get the chance before they die at some point within the 20 years expected life span post orphanage.
What is wrong with us??? Why are we so afraid to extend ourselves in faith to love another human being that isn't wrapped up to look like a baby in a diaper commercial?  Why can't we look past our fears and look into their loss? Why can't we have confidence in our own capacity to bless, inspire and heal another human being? Why are we so self focused on our potential lifestyle losses that we can't see the loss and lack of style in the lives of the  orphans of this world that  live without anything?  We have so much that is given to us not as a result of our affluence but as a result of our ability to read about God and what he says?  We should have the faith and dictate to go to those orphans simply by our ability and blessing to hold a bible...God tells us to go to them.  Can't we extend ourselves beyond our cul de sacs and into the compounds of windowless buildings, pillowfree beds and dry wells that hundreds of children live with every day??? Just by lending a hand or an encouraging word or by giving up our 4 dollar latte's can mean life to someone.....Kolfe Orphanage

Monday, August 10, 2009

We Have Room! Adoption Video! Looks like the Falchook family!

Promo for "We Have Room" Documentary from David Watson on Vimeo.

Saturday, August 8, 2009

To Be A Mother: Radio Interview on National Pro Life Radio with Day Gardner!

National ProLife Radio

I will be on National Pro Life Radio on 8/24 on Day Life News with Day Gardner (she is incredible and that is an understatement). And the show will be repeated on 8/25 at 12:30 and 5...

Because of this interview I also have moved up my book release date to 8/24...Please mark your calendar's for that date. If I sell enough on the date of release I could receive the Amazon credentials of being a best seller. So, please Mark your calendars and support the message of embracing motherhood and empowering women through motherhood....

Wednesday, August 5, 2009

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Sunday, August 2, 2009

Angelic Encounter and Packing a Pistol!

Matthew 18:
10"See that you do not look down on one of these little ones. For I tell you that their angels in heaven always see the face of my Father in heaven.

Ever wonder what it would be like to see an angel? I just spent two days in the mountains..It is an incredible place, prayed up for  years or more with the place being prayer walked the several thousand acres....

Wed and Thursday I was in NY working with my band. On Friday I landed from NY at 10am and around 5:30 met some amazing women for a 2 hour drive to the mountains...I went to a Summit with 10 women to discuss orphans/adoption/sanctity of life-- mainly in Africa (go to TO BE A MOTHER for more info and pics). On the way we stopped for dinner and a trip to the Walmart for groceries. Looking up into the sky I noticed a full rainbow with a half rainbow developing next to it that lasted for at least 20 minutes.

Genesis 9:12-15 (New International Version)

12 And God said, "This is the sign of the covenant I am making between me and you and every living creature with you, a covenant for all generations to come: 13 I have set my rainbow in the clouds, and it will be the sign of the covenant between me and the earth. 14 Whenever I bring clouds over the earth and the rainbow appears in the clouds, 15 I will remember my covenant between me and you and all living creatures of every kind. Never again will the waters become a flood to destroy all life

..I had never seen a rainbow that lasted that long..So, even with only 3 hours of sleep, I was energized the minute I showed up to the amazing guesthouse. Being with all of these amazing women was something to behold and very much welcomed since I had been revved up for the release of my book 8/30 and the new ministry that is ahead of me. My ministry with TO BE A MOTHER is to remind women to show compassion, love, and a nurturing spirit to the orphans, unborn, enslaved children in the world... In essence to remind people of Christ's ministry and to continue the ministry with life saving efforts for children and women.So, the rainbow and scripture was to me a sign of victory..."never again will the waters become a flood to destroy all life." My belief and conviction is that in spite of the monumental task of raising awareness for the 150 orphans and millions of babies destroyed by abortion and children exploited and hurt by trafficking/abuse...that somehow the awesome power of God will shine forward like that rainbow to annihilate the evil that is flooding over the lives of the innocent ones in this world...

So, once in the guesthouse I was downright giddy. With only a few hours of sleep i could not rest. There was something special about this place and time. So, I stayed up chatting until 3:07 when I went up to my room...On the way to the room I glanced over to the porch on the second floor to see (what I thought) was one of the ten women on the porch in full head to toe blue luminescent scarving/gown worshipping, dancing, singing and praying out on the porch outside the door ....I thought to how cool to have this energy to worship with such passion at 3am..I went to put my book and bag down in my room to come back to the porch to find whoever it was gone and the light that had lit up the porch with a bluish gold glow off...I had wanted to join in the singing..,But I went to bed ..finally feeling room mate and friend Eileen went into the shower..I heard singing in the woods and high pitched music along with footsteps on the porch.....I barely slept even after Eileen fell out to sleep...I kept thinking.."geez how can anyone sleep with the high pitched flutes and buzzes and footsteps going off out in the woods"(I am not talking about crickets etc) ...Remember I had slept the night before in NYC with sirens, and horns honking-- like a baby for the three hours I slept.

Around 6 am I nod off...around 9am I am wide awake with a strong command in my mind/heart..."get up and worship"...I fight it off saying to myself..."I WANT TO SLEEP"...still I get up only seeing one or two women awake ...looking for a place to worship I find the downstairs porch overlooking the woods with the mysterious ethereal party music that went on all night...I prayed and sang for about an hour...Now I am wide awake with the energy of a NYC realtor....So, we spend the day in prayer...worship, chatting...I realize about 11am the next day from the conversations with everyone that all of them had been in their rooms or asleep at 3am and I must have seen an angel...I am upset with myself for mistaking her for one of us because I would have paid more attention (still I don't really talk much about it processing the whole thing)....Around 6pm I crash for a nap with no ethereal musical interruptions...

Around midnight that night I am chatting with my friends and holding my iphone. It starts raining...Mysteriously, with no contact from me (besides I have no fingerprints and it takes about 10 touches with anything from me on the iphone to work) song "THE RAIN" starts playing by itself from the ipod on my iphone. I literally had not listened to the song for 5 years and didn't know it was in my iphone/ipod library...and the moment I noticed the rain outside..the song popped on my phone and started playing...

I go to bed around 2am...Eileen is taking her shower again...I am nodding off..I hear a tap at the window and the angel partying in the woods again ('hey keep it down out there I am trying to sleep") there is no angel "stopping the music" task force to call in the middle of the woods...maybe my hearing is that of a dog and i can just hear high pitched stuff...who knows...So, Eileen comes in and goes to sleep. I really had no conversations with her about my angelic fact i kept it low key waiting for more confirmation. Eileen's life is constantly filled with supernatural experiences...God is all over her...but she is also really funny...So, Eileen startles at 2:39 because we both hear 5 steps on the porch that had an angel dancing on it the night before...Eileen says to me "Hey did you hear that?" I said "yeah it is probably one of those angels">..Eileen is from Staten Island originally...She seriously says to me "hey I forgot my gun"...Which makes me laugh really hard...but we keep hearing foot steps..She keeps saying..."Is the door locked...?" I am thinking the angel can get through the locked door and the gun wouldn't stop them...So we are really giddy and silly...we look out the blinds to see no one...We both decide to walk into the hallway...she is behind me...we are silly premenopausal Nancy Drews tip toeing looking for angels or in her mind "gangsters in angel attire who need to be shot"...we look out at the porch..nothing...we think maybe we heard something from upstairs...we peak up one is dark and silent up there...So we go back to bed...she falls asleep right away..I hear more steps and then see a figure in my room that takes away the ambient light from my computer and cell phone and then I hear a buzz around my ears while the figure is there...and then the figure leaves and I can see the light from my computer and phone again...I fall to sleep with the blanket over my eyes...wake up at 9 again...come down to the kitchen and speak to 3 other people who heard the footsteps..Then i tell everyone about my angel encounters.....and then I open my email and get this email sent at 7:22am from my friend Lori Dillard who didn't know I was heading to angel central because I really didn't know myself....

"D - good morning - just making sure you are ok. I prayed many times for you last night around midnight for your safety & for angels to surround you... let me know how you are.


Sweet Confirmation....I then came home and told my kids about it..During dinner everyone was mad at me for not taking pictures of the angel and upset that I didn't see the face or go to the porch to sing with the angels...

I am not the type of person who has books on angels in my house or has crystals etc...I can't deny from this experience that I saw one and heard them...I do believe they are protecting us and under God's authority....and in doing a little 'angel googling" found out that the color blue represents the colors of archangel Michael who represents protection...but this was a girl angel maybe Michelle or Michaela...

I also think it is a sweet auspicious gift to see an angel for the first time in my life as I embark on a ministry with a legion of earthly women who have the same passion as I do for saving orphans etc....I also, have a newfound sense of empowerment having a glimpse at the awesome otherworldly aspects of my Lord God....Also, I will continue to sing in hopes that somehow they are singing, worshipping and guiding me under the direction of God above...Praise God for His sweet Holy protection in garments of the most beautiful blue i have ever seen....

(for more info on the Summit go to TO BE A MOTHER)